Health Organization for Pudendal Education

As we are in the start up of this Forum we would welcome any input and suggestions from members.
As of tonight we have discovered that we cannot send emails and some settings for PM useage.
We are working on this matter and will try to resolve same ASAP.

If you have any ideas we would love to hear about them.

I am not sure what anyone could do regarding this, but I thought I would throw it out there . . . I am so disheartened by what seems to be literal arguments and just plain nastiness that has been going on on some of the other forums. I have a pretty thick skin, but I know there are others who do not and would leave rather than try to wade through all the negativity for any potentially helpful information. Again, I don't know how anyone can do, but it is very sad that it happens and I hope we do not see it here. Thank you for all you do and thank you for listening

Grace

Grace I agree with you on this. I think it's fine to discuss differences in opinion on ideas and issues but there is no place for personal attacks. Since all of the moderators are volunteers there may be times when we don't get offensive items removed immediately but we will do our best to try to keep the nastiness down.

What does everyone think of the idea of having a specific section of the forum for people who want to engage in a vigorous debate -- not name calling but vigorous debate?

I think it would be really good to have a place where each person who has had surgery can post their end result, possibly a Sticky in the Case History section, with a thread for each doctor. So often we see people come to the forums and want to try to gauge how satisfied or not a person is with a given doctor or surgery, and then the person has to rely on input from the collective, which may not be fully representative.

I think that the time is right to start collecting this information. I feel like it's just too hard for new people to wade through a loaded site to figure this out for themselves, and maybe it's too much to ask of forum members to tabulate this information and disseminate it on demand. Each member would only have to do one post one time, and we could possibly build something that would be useful for patients to come.

Hi. I noticed the DONATE button isn't available yet?

Emily B.

I'm with Celeste--love the idea of a sticky results thread.

It is hard to wade through all the other information on other/previous forums to try to find a person's end result.

Thank you everyone for their very good suggestions.
Celeste your idea is something we had not thought about until now, I will work on instigating this in the coming days.

With everyones help and input we will make this site and forum a great place....thank you.

Wanted to let you know that when I initially went to the home page, I had a hard time finding the forum button to click on. Maybe a click-able forum button on the left side of the page menu might be good?

Thanks for all your hard work on this. I don't know what I'd do without this forum. I sure hope everyone finds their way here.

Emily B.

Emily B wrote:Hi. I noticed the DONATE button isn't available yet?

Emily B.

The donations button is available now. You can use a credit card or your paypal account. According to paypal a tax deductible receipt with the name of the organization on it is generated automatically and sent to the e-mail address that you provide -- but it could go to your spam box so you may have to watch for it. If you don't receive a receipt and you need one, please let Violet M know.

GraceUnderFire wrote:I am not sure what anyone could do regarding this, but I thought I would throw it out there . . . I am so disheartened by what seems to be literal arguments and just plain nastiness that has been going on on some of the other forums. I have a pretty thick skin, but I know there are others who do not and would leave rather than try to wade through all the negativity for any potentially helpful information. Again, I don't know how anyone can do, but it is very sad that it happens and I hope we do not see it here. Thank you for all you do and thank you for listening

Grace

Oh, Grace. Out of "nastiness" sometimes comes better solutions. Sometimes we have to "duke it out" a bit, no personal attacks, but be firm in our beliefs based on our experiences and on the many experiences that we know that people have had. I've been in the middle of argument many times and while some people don't like to see it, if it's important enough to lead someone in the right direction and away from the wrong direction (and there are right and wrong directions which people can take), then I'd say we put up with a little of the nastiness, as you call it, as long as people maintain a respectful tone towards others. It's like having a problem at home and deciding to ignore it because it might be painful to work through it. If you confront problems, you are all better off in the long run.

I guess we might have some disagreement on what is and what is not "nastiness". You refer to "the other forums" which is obviously tipna I'm guessing. I think that things are generally very tame over there. I have personally touted this new website to our members, asking them to come here rather than to pudendal.info. I have confidence in the moderators of this site that they'll know the difference between people just being butts and people actually engaging in thoughtful disagreements.

Greg