Re: Harshness
Posted: Fri Oct 28, 2011 2:24 pm
The immediate question is how does one cope with having to live in the same house with a bitter ex? I don't think most people could live under those conditions very well. I assume you are living in an environment of constant tension.
I understand that there are wider philosophical underpinnings to the question, but I think in the short term your well being demands that you be removed from this situation if at all possible. Is there any chance of selling the house; or of one of you renting their stake in the home to a tenant who is approved as a roommate by the other; or undergo legal negotiations like a divorcing couple for one to buy out the other's stake in the home; or any other recourse to get out of these living conditions?
I would look at the practical first. Dealing with harshness in general is a function of introspection and spiritual growth. When you are in acute emotional distress that's a lot to ask. You should not be living under the same roof with an ex. If the two of you already have a plan to get yourselves out of cohabitation (?) maybe one of you could stay with a friend or relative until those arrangements are complete.
I understand that there are wider philosophical underpinnings to the question, but I think in the short term your well being demands that you be removed from this situation if at all possible. Is there any chance of selling the house; or of one of you renting their stake in the home to a tenant who is approved as a roommate by the other; or undergo legal negotiations like a divorcing couple for one to buy out the other's stake in the home; or any other recourse to get out of these living conditions?
I would look at the practical first. Dealing with harshness in general is a function of introspection and spiritual growth. When you are in acute emotional distress that's a lot to ask. You should not be living under the same roof with an ex. If the two of you already have a plan to get yourselves out of cohabitation (?) maybe one of you could stay with a friend or relative until those arrangements are complete.