Amarant wrote: ↑Sun Jul 04, 2021 8:15 pm
Hello, I'm new to this forum and wanted to share my story. No doctor could help me so far. I am male and 34 years old.
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I read a lot of men who have problem maintaining an erection or have pain. For me it is the opposite.
Are here any men who can relate this? I'm really desperate, because I think it wont go away anymore and I don't know what to do. I hate it so much!!!!
Hi Amarant - I'm male, 47 years old. My problem is related closely to yours, but is slightly different.
For me, the sexual arousal is not an erection, it's a nerve somewhere deep inside my perineum that causes the persistant (and highly irritable) sensation that I
need to ejaculate.
The sensation is heightened during my drowsy period before sleep and is so irritable, won't allow me to fall asleep - I just lie there awake for hours
begging it to leave me.
If I give in and then masturbate to ejaculation, I immediately have what I call a 'magic 30-minute window' of relief whereby if I'm lucky, I will fall asleep before the time's up.
If I don't fall asleep within that 30-minute window, the sensation returns and intensifies until I have to go a round 2 (or just put up with it until I fall asleep around 6 or 7am).
The sensation isn't just there at a pre-sleep stage, it's always there - I can even feel it within me now, it's just not affecting me as deeply as the point where I need to sleep.
Personally, I don't believe this is pudendal neuralgia - Because if I'm right (and please correct me if I'm not), for PN there needs to be
pain. I'm not feeling any pain, just a terribly annoying sensation that won't go away.
I've never had any operation and am otherwise very healthy in body and mind. What I am learning is that it's a very rare condition - Whether that is because nobody talks about it (as it's embarassing), then maybe it could be more common than we think. Like you, I do experience erections that won't go away sometimes - But I wanted to stress that this isn't always the case, the main issue for me is that stupidly annoying sensation in my perineum. Please re-evaluate your condition and think about what the real issue is (for me, I can put up with erections - it's that sensation that's the issue).
There is an interesting medical journal article from 2013 here:
https://www.bjmp.org/content/persistent ... ysis-cause
Also a male, but they appear to give some weight to a vasectomy he had as being a potential psychosomatic cause. For me, like you, I'm still looking for answers.
I'm just not sure if PN is barking up the wrong tree yet.