Male question: What happens to Sexual Life After PN?

[dbejeoBette3]

Hello everybody i'm male in my early 30s.
although i have not been diagnosed, i know i have nerve damage and possibly it is PN. I have pain, urination problems, and tingling/burning in scrotum
After researching online, i found many sites saying that these symptoms can result from PN.

. So far it's beeen 1 month and i've been in hell. Checked by urologist and he is currently treating me for Prostatitis because he noticed i have a tender prosttate. However, from my reading and analysis of my situation like having a contastnt pins/needles/tingling kind of sensation in the scrotum and penis I think i have some
kind of PN injury.

I've been thinking that my Sex life may be pretty much over because of the pains and constant sensations that i have. I can't concentrate or even feel
sexual attraction. I do get Erectile function but being that i have connstant nerve tingling/needles..it's just not fun or comfortable. I also have pains upon touch or pulling. In fact, that's how my injury happened..from slight pull of the penis.
It affected my scrotum and even my urinary system to become dysfunctional.

Is there any hope to having a Sex life, after you have pudendal nerve damage? Or is it pretty much over.
And i dont just mean the act of intercourse. I mean, even to be happy. How can you be happy to start relationships if you can't be relaxed and happy due to constant pains and tingling. And you can't even have attraction or sexual attraction because you're in pain and anxiety due to pain.

I still get erections and can ejaculate. But what's the poin if i can't really enjoy it?. For example i found out i can ejaculate but to get aroused i can't touch /rub
the shaft. i can only do it by carefully rubbing the tip of the glans. So that means i coud't have realistic sex with an actual woman. no penetration or not even hand job. or nothing. That would hurt soooo bad. cause i get bad pains.

now, i dont mean i only care about doing just sexual acts. What i'm saying is, do this pain and tingling that i have ever end? So that i can at least enjoy kissing or something without being in pain? Like any young guy, you dream of a normal relationship and sexual relationship for all your life and then it's all gone in 1 second.

Ive had my injury for 1 month and suffering in pain.

Is there any hope?

[Violet M]

Yes, there is definitely hope. Lot's of guys get better with the right treatments but it might take some traveling and some trial and error to find out for sure what your diagnosis is and what treatments work for you. It's not an easy illness to deal with and there are no guarantees but many people do get their lives back and are able to enjoy sex again. People who are young and who discover their diagnosis early have statistically better outcomes than those who are older and have had PN for a long time without treatment. So, if you have PN, I think your chances are good.

Violet

[acw]

I have a kind of follow-up question for the males on this thread (from a female). What if you met a woman with a similar condition? So both of you experience pain and don't find a sexual relationship enjoyable. At least there wouldn't be the "pressure of having to perform". Would you be interested in a relationship where you knew physical intimacy may not be a part of your life together? Or would you still find it too difficult to be emotionally close to a woman that you couldn't have a physical relationship with, too?

In some respects, these questions sound so superficial, but I really would like an honest answer. How important is a sexual relationship to a man?

[Jackson]

Hi acw,

I don't think they are superficial questions that you ask of!

Cheers

[dbejeoBette3]

What matters is love. I wouldn't care if I didn't have erections( well i would, but i would get used to it)
But what i'm saying is..Ok no erections whatever..but at least I want to be in peace and painfree so i can have a good relationship and love.

[AroraNightfire]

If I met a man who had erectile dysfunction I wouldn't be turned off. Actually I think I wouldn't mind it one bit. Dicks do nothing except hurt me. I would be perfectly content with someone who could show me love through their kind actions and words. I would be very happy with a man who would love to kiss me the way I love being kissed. I would love to have someone sensual rather than sexual. Voices can be such a turn on. ~ Dr Hibner wrote that 1 in ever 100,000 ppl has PN. It would be hard for me to find a man who has PN.